.purity.

I keep getting asked about D/S. As I'm a switch, I get requests to be dominated as well as requests to submit to me. The thing I've noticed about these requests is that none of you have a clue what it's about!

I'm never one to shy from honesty, and the truth is those who have asked to submit to me come across as nothing more than desperate and those asking to dominate me come across as nothing more than assholes with little man syndrome.

Dominating someone is about trust, not about being an abusive prick. Leave my blog if you mind my tongue.

If your interest is not based on both people's pleasure you're not cut out for this life style. To do it successfully, properly, there has to be a bond. There has to be trust. It isn't about treating someone like shit. The line between abusing someone and dominating them isn't fine, it's a fucking mile wide. The idea is to have someone submit to you willingly.You can take what you want anytime, but getting someone to give it to you willingly and eagerly, that is what it's about.

The power lies with the one submitting, not the one dominating. Every good Dom knows that. A good Sub does too. If there isn't a willing participant to dominate, what have you got?

This relationship can fill a lot of voids, but only if it's pure. I will let my Dom do anything he wants to me. Why? Because I trust him and I know his wants do not include anything that I'll be upset about. As a result, I'm even more willing to try new things and even like things I didn't before. Because I trust him.

I know how hard this is to come by, so I don't fault those who beg either one of us or offer themselves. I don't understand how you could just do that, just throw yourself at someone because of tweeted words on a screen.. but I can see the attraction for sure. It's pure, it's raw, and it's real. Honesty is always more attractive, and when you're true to yourself, you're much more appealing to those who will want you for you.. but come on here..
Down bitches, down mutts.. earn the trust and make a bond. Don't be tricky, sneaky, conniving or manipulative. It's nothing if it's not pure.